A WOMAN'S TRUE POWER - SUBMISSION TO HER MAN

For a long time I have noticed women constantly striving to reach a certain height and balance in their lives. Growing up like I did in Louisiana, I could not understand why it seemed so complicated for them. From the women that I have known personally as well as from listening to talk shows and reading magazines, one of the two big questions has been "Should I strive to be a professional woman or a wife and mother?" The other question has been "What individual roles should I and my husband play if I do decide to get married?" The reason why this is so perplexing to me is because my mother and her friends never seemed to have any real problems with this. I know that there have been certain socio-economic changes brought on by the ruling elite that have reeked havoc on traditional families. These changes are a result of extreme economic pressure placed on the families causing a type of schism between husband and wife, and neglect of children due to the woman no longer having much nurturing and guidance time with them. Again, this has all been contrived by the ruling elite for a reason (see video of the interview by the late Hollywood movie producer Aaron Russo at http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lhJCTFZf03A.
Still, being a Black man, there was always pressure on my family. However, both of my parents were professional. My father was a professor, then placement director, and finally an administrator at a university while my mother was an elementary school teacher. Yet, my mother had time for my father and us four children. She cooked and she cleaned the house with help from my father, us children, and sometimes a relative. Though some women seem to think that the demand of cooking is an everyday ordeal, that was not so in our household. My mother cooked approximately three times a week - usually Sunday, Wednesday, and Friday. My father would fix the leftovers, take us out to eat, or he would bring food home from KFC on the other days. Later on in the marriage, he even started cooking breakfast sometimes. My point is, the balance that women seem to be seeking today was enjoyed by women abundantly in the past. This leads me to think that the problem lies in attitude. I've heard more women speak on what they are determined NOT to do for their husband than what they ARE going to do. One of my married female friends that I had somewhat of a relationship with (I know I was wrong and have since repented) told me that she was a mother, businesswoman, and wife in that order. As I listened to her, I thought "No wonder your marriage is shakey." Another female said that she wanted to get her profession together first, then have a baby, and then get married. After I explained to her the error in her priorities, she seemed astoundingly illuminated and said "Oh yeah, I guess you're right." Author Shanel Cooper (Stilletos in the Kitchen: The Modern Girls Guide to Being a Domestic Goddess ) seems to be on a mission to restoring the proper attitude, and bridging the gap between the tried and true traditional roles of women with the challenges of today's society. You can view a brief video by her as she gives a concise overview of her book at
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQ0xH28YL9k&feature=related and
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mOPfn5jydoY&feature=related.